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Feedback ... the technique seems boring. An overhand right would be both more exciting and more efficient.
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Old 11-17-2017, 04:06 PM
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Feedback ... the technique seems boring. An overhand right would be both more exciting and more efficient.
Right, because that's social acceptable and will keep you out of jail.
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Right, because that's social acceptable and will keep you out of jail.
You gotta pop the boring bastard.
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You gotta pop the boring bastard.
ONLY if his boredom threatens your safety. In other words, pop him in self-defense.
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This thread may not be so boring after all. Consider this:

A boring man meets a boring woman, and the boring couple engages in a boring courtship. Eventually, the two marry and invite a whole bunch of boring people to the wedding. The newlyweds move into a boring neighborhood, raising two boring children. However, one of these boring people happens to be a scientist who discovered a vaccine that saved the lives of millions of people living in poverty. Now, why on earth would anyone want to shut up such a caring and loving individual whose only fault is being boring? Seems kind of cruel, humorless, and bigoted. Don't you think?

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Old 11-18-2017, 10:38 AM
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This thread may not be so boring after all. Consider this:

A boring man meets a boring woman, and the boring couple engages in a boring courtship. Eventually, the two marry and invite a whole bunch of boring people to the wedding. The newlyweds move into a boring neighborhood, raising two boring children. However, one of these boring people happens to be a scientist who discovered a vaccine that saved the lives of millions of people living in poverty. Now, why on earth would anyone want to shut up such a caring and loving individual whose only fault is being boring? Seems kind of cruel, humorless, and bigoted. Don't you think?
Where did I say that boring people aren't or at least can't be valuable and productive contributers?

And where did I condemn boring people for being boring?
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Old 11-18-2017, 11:10 AM
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("...nice work well written, thanks for sharing too..." went the goblin adding "...perhaps less paragraphs would make it easier to follow though, not that I use paragraphs myself as my posts tend to be short, btw your advice is sound too, so I hope to read more from you shortly...", and with that the goblin was off to see what other posts were on offer tonight, then adding "...odd isn't it, I mean more people read "short interactive content", which is what these posts are, than most anything else, and yet see how most writers overlook this readership here for their blogs elsewhere, such a pity when we can poll our efforts like this and make a far bigger readership than any one person's blog can, ah I almost forgot, don't forget to keep an eye on the hitcount of any thread you do for it is unequivocally your readership, of which I might add yours is not bad by look of things...")

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Flea's a good person who provides a service with encouraging words. When you lend an ear to a boring person, you provide a service too.
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Old 11-18-2017, 12:22 PM
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When you lend an ear to a boring person, you provide a service too.
And what might that be?
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Old 11-18-2017, 02:18 PM
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Occasionally, everybody has to get something off his or her chest; so if you listen to somebody, regardless how boring you believe the person to be, you're giving the person an opportunity to unload. So, essentially, you're doing a service. Honestly, anybody who needs a technique to deal with a person who is irritating is in pitiful shape himself. After all, you do have two feet and a mouth: "See you later, gator" is more than sufficient to make your escape. Your writing is well, but your topic is plain silly. Was it meant to be humorous? If it was then I believe I owe you an apology.


If you search, you'll find hidden beneath all the layers of bullshit the true meaning of life. And that meaning, my friend, is "service to others" -- even when the service is merely providing an ear to a boring person. Otherwise, if you're short on time or if you don't want to listen, just use your feet.

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Old 11-18-2017, 02:48 PM
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How do most people handle boring people?

This line of yours deserves examination.

Scenario:

You are drowning, and standing on the long pier is a boring person who is an excellent swimmer. He looks down into the water to find you splashing around. However, he's unsure if you're playing around or really in trouble, so he starts yelling to you: "Do you need help? Do you need help?"

Now how would you handle him? What technique of yours would be appropriate in this situation?


Here's an idea for your next assignment: what to do about boring people who write too much (also a form of communication)? Take away their laptops? Turn off their electricity?

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Old 11-18-2017, 09:49 PM
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Oh, thank goodness Shelly, the champion of the oppressed, came along to defend the poor helpless, boring people of the world! He's such a great guy!

Barf.

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Oh, thank goodness Shelly, the champion of the oppressed, came along to defend the poor helpless, boring people of the world! He's such a great guy!

Barf.
Figured you were lurking in the bushes. You just can't help yourself. Realistically speaking, does society really need guidelines dealing with such a silly topic. Everyone has freedom of choice -- a person may listen and laugh at what he/she is hearing or a person may walk away and call the person a stupid b------. My choice is the laughter. Or if I woke up on the wrong side of bed, I just might hurl the overhand right, which wouldn't make me such a great guy. See you're wrong again, bushman. What the heck? Such a forgiving person like yourself... you wouldn't lend an ear?

Are you sure you aren't Joematt? You have his traits.

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Old 11-19-2017, 06:24 AM
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Grace, thank you. I never met a boring woman.


One last comment. Konan did ask for feedback. If he is an adult he will be able to handle the positives or negatives. Besides, before I commented, there were about forty reads, yet nobody chose to respond. It was only after my reply, that the "real" criticism began to flow. I'm sure you read his post, bushman, before my response but remained mum. Do you know what that reveals about you? It tells me that you have this personality disorder. That you aren't a pleasant person and that you just cannot "let go." Quite the opposite of someone who is "really" forgiving.

You make my point -- words are empty. Actions rule. Start acting the part.
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Old 11-19-2017, 06:26 AM
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Konan didn't say people who tend to be boring conversationalists are bad people or that they don't contribute to society etc.

And nothing he said had anything to do with listening to people who are troubled and have something they need to get off their chest.

As usual, it's all stuff you pulled out of thin air so you could get up on your high horse and deliver some kind of self-righteous lecture. So no, I'm not wrong -- I'm right on the money.

Otherwise, yes, there are people who are somewhat self-absorbed to the extent they they mostly want to talk about themselves. In addition to that, they're not really listening to you -- they're thinking of what they're going to say next. It can be annoying.

If you're really stuck talking to them, rather than continue to indulge them, it makes sense to try and direct the conversation to something that has relevance to both of you. I probably wouldn't give it so much effort, but what Konan is saying makes sense. Generally, I just try to politely extricate myself from the situation.

Almost everyone here knows I'm JoeMatt -- so yes, I'm all too familiar with your ridiculous M.O.
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He asked for feedback -- not the crap you posted.


And returning to his topic. Personally, I'll take a boring person over a hypocrite every day of the week.
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Old 11-19-2017, 06:54 AM
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Here's the thing -- you can't really give any kind of remotely valid feedback if you read all kinds nonsense into the piece that you've made up and isn't even implied.

So nope -- nothing to do with offering an opinion that could be of any use -- you just saw it as another opportunity to climb up on your usual soapbox.

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And returning to his topic. Personally, I'll take a boring person over a hypocrite every day of the week.
...and the usual dose of unintended irony.

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Originally Posted by Cityboy
When you lend an ear to a boring person, you provide a service too.
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And what might that be?
If you lend someone an ear then they might suddenly have three ears. If the ear being lent is a pig ear, it might make a nifty coin purse or wallet, for example.
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Here's the thing -- you can't really give any kind of remotely valid feedback if you read all kinds nonsense into the piece that you've made up and isn't even implied.

So nope -- nothing to do with offering an opinion that could be of any use -- you just saw it as another opportunity to climb up on your usual soapbox.



...and the usual dose of unintended irony.

Sparring with you on a beautiful Sunday morning makes me wonder whether I need to have my head examined. In all fairness, I didn't ask for the nonsense. It was you who rose from bed to let stupidity lead him like a dumb mule to the computer. It was you who ignored man's golden rule -- "Treat others as you would want others to treat you." It was you who resorted to his usual tricks of trying to belittle and mock me (the proof is there -- go reread your dumbass post). And this is from a person who preaches "Forgiveness." Seems to me, a psychiatrist's couch may be of more value to you than a writer's forum is. Now, get the fuck away from me and stop your dumbass stalking.

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If you lend someone an ear then they might suddenly have three ears. If the ear being lent is a pig ear, it might make a nifty coin purse or wallet, for example.

Maybe some of you need to ask Konan for his phone number. Next time, you walk down the street and run into a confused, happy, sad, ignorant, intelligent, troubled, or excited person, you could call him for advice or for tricks on handling the encounter.
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Originally Posted by Cityboy View Post
"Treat others as you would want others to treat you."
Okay -- so what you'd really like is for people read your stuff and then purposely misconstrue it so they deliver some of kind lame lecture.

I will keep that in mind!

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Oh Shelly, you're too funny.

You preach the golden rule and accuse Myers of belittling and mocking you (which isn't treating people how you want to be treated), but then in your very next post, you go and treat me in the exact same way you condemned in him by mocking and belittling me.

Has anyone ever told you you're a hypocrite?

But you are by far my favorite poster to read here. The way you let your emotions run wild and control your actions is very amusing and makes for some great entertainment.

Keep it up!
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(the goblin returned, read through the posts thinking "usual suspects" again, and then wondered why brianpatrick hadn't posted by now, before explaining "...ok, do not be surprised if your thread gets hijacked at some point, no they mean well but to be quite honest I don't think that they're really in control of their posting habit there, where I think this forum was formally known as "postholics anonymous" too, but stay the course now, remember you're doing forumland a great service by keeping them on your thread like this...", in fact, the goblin liked Konan and hoped that konan would write more soon, then related "...online, the author and his works are like two sides of the same coin, however most writers fail to grasp the potential of that truth though, yet I hope that you wise enough to use your persona to your best advantage here, it is the other side of your work as it were...")

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Originally Posted by fleamailman View Post
they mean well but to be quite honest I don't think that they're really in control of their posting habit there...
I was doing OK for a while, but then I relapsed. Shelly coming around is like waving a bottle of tequila under the nose of someone who's just trying to climb on the wagon.

But the first step toward recovery is admitting you have a problem.

So would you like to go to a meeting with me? Maybe the goblin can come along too.

It's not hard -- you just say, "Hi, I'm fleamailman and I'm a postholic."

And everyone enthustiaclally says, "Hi fleamailman!"

Just remember, you are not alone.

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And with that, Shelly leaves the thread in disgrace with his tail between his legs.
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Oh, I doubt that. That would require some amount of self-awareness.

BTW, I get the gist of what you're saying. I just rarely find myself in a situation like that where I can't bow out. It's usually just not worth the effort to steer the conversation in another direction.

It's pretty rampant though -- this kind of boring conversation -- not among my friends or the people who I want to socialize with -- but at things like neighborhood or work related parties.

People with young children are often the most insufferable -- it's like -- yeah, I know all about potty training and breastfeeding etc. Believe or not, you are NOT the first person to have a child. And I was very aware of that when ours were little -- and I still am when it comes to talking about my own kids who are at the tween stage.

My wife and I find that we're hanging out with older people more often. One of our good friends is 91! We take him out to dinner and usually a movie every six or eight weeks. Yes, he talks about himself quite a bit, but it's the context of some very rich experience -- so it's all pretty fascinating. And yeah, we've heard some of his stories several times now, but what are you going to do?
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But you do sometimes find yourself in situations where you're "trapped" listening to boring people, though perhaps not that often.

Would you consider trying the techniques in my article out the next time it happens?

I mean, if you're stuck in the situation, why not learn to make the most of it?

And it's interesting to hear that you have someone in your life who tells you the same stories over and over again, because that's on my list of topics to write about in the near future.

That said, don't you ever want to spare yourself the boredom of not having to endure the same stories over again?

Why humor him when it's a "burden" to you?

And why do you allow it to happen -- do you just not want to embarrass him or make him feel uncomfortable by making it known to him that he's already told a story?
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Old 11-19-2017, 03:23 PM
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Come on. He's an old man -- he doesn't remember what he's told us. Why not give him the pleasure of telling us a story?

Otherwise -- yes, occasionally I'm trapped.

I had to fly to L.A. and spend two days with a client on a video and photo shoot. He talked about himself the whole time. A couple of times he asked me about my work, family etc. -- but it was just an entree so he could tell me more about himself and his kids.

The guy is very sharp -- he has a wealth of knowledge about marketing, so I tried to broaden the conversation so maybe I could learn something. Nothing doing -- he just kept bringing it back to himself.

Otherwise, I don't really need your specific techniques. I intuitively take opportunities to direct the conversation to something that might be interesting or relevant to both parties -- but if it doesn't happen, I either extricate myself, or I just go along with it. It's just not worth the trouble.

And I'm pretty good at feigning interest when I'm thinking about something else. I mean, you're married aren't you? Surely you know how to do that.

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